5 Important Lessons Strong Women Taught ME

This post may be a little overdue, but seeing as there have been two poignant national celebrations about women this week, I thought it'd be a great opportunity to talk about the lessons that strong women, whether it's our mums, sisters, friends, idols etc,  teach us every day - sometimes whether we like it or not.

​1. never be afraid to admit how you feel

I'll be the first to admit that this is a lesson I wish I had learnt a lot sooner. I'm a very confident person in certain aspects of my life - but also shy in others, and this is something I wish I could've taught my high school self. I've changed a lot since, but back then, would you ever catch me admitting how I felt? No. And this went for everything in life, from mean remarks made by others at school, even down to guys I liked. The amounts of arguments that could've been sorted sooner, or relationships that never blossomed because I was too afraid to speak up really affected me, and it was only hearing Rosa Park's speech about female equality that hit home and made me change my attitude. I still remember her exact words "never be afraid to talk about how you feel, as a woman never lost anything by speaking up." 

2. never ever be second best. or third. or even fourth

I feel like by now this should be a given, but nowadays it's actually more prevalent than ever. Young girls are so scarily 'fine' with being second best, but putting yourself first is really something that all women should be championing by now. I once heard Serena William's discussing in an interview about how "being second best has never been an option" for her, and this really struck a chord for me mainly because of the phase of life I was going through, mid-break up. I realised that for my whole "relationship" I hadn't even been second best, I'd been pretty much 9th best, and that was the day it needed to change. Although this isn't the only thing it should be applied to, it should be applied to all areas of your life, whether it be work, school, your local sports team... always strive to never settle.

​3. be spontaneous and 'go with the flow'

"I got it from my mama"!! This is one my mum taught me. Of course it's always nice to have a plan, but when does life ever go to plan? The answer is never, at least not in my case anyway... (unless there's food involved. If I set my mind on getting food then there's no changing that plan)
​My mum always said to me "what will be will be" and I couldn't agree more with this, and I've learnt that being spontaneous ends up being way better than being pre planned. I used to be a creature of habit and be stuck to routine, but if you texted me at 3pm and said "lets go get maccies at 7?" I'd be there. Worrying too much about "what if it doesn't work out?", "what if I'm wasting my time?" etc only makes you feel bad and puts obstacles in the way of what could be something really bloody amazing.

​4. if you want something, go get it

Also another lesson from my mum: if I had a penny for every for every time I rolled my eyes at my mum when she said "if you want something Kellie, then do something about it", I'd be balling right now. The amount of lectures I've had about this are insane and it all boils down to lesson number one on this blog post. I went through a phase last year when I graduated of feeling really de-motivated about my career, I felt like the content I was putting out wasn't half as good as some of my peers and felt like I'd hit a massive brick wall. It was only until my mum sat me down practically having a go at me and giving me that sentence you read in the second line of this chapter, that I learnt this lesson and since then I've created some of the best content I've ever produced, as well as giving me the motivation to work with the amazing brands that I have been. But that goes for anything - so if you want that franco manca pizza, then go get it - and if you want that guy or girl, then go get them because the only person stopping you is yourself.

​5. treat others how you wish to be treated

I am a strong believer of this. This was one thing as a child I always heard my nan repeating and it's always stuck with me - you would want people to be kind to you, so why wouldn't you be kind to them? If you know me personally, then you'll know that I always go above and beyond for anyone, it's something I wouldn't even think twice about. 
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But in all honesty, it's a motto everyone should live by anyway, just so it stops you from being a dick.


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